11+ years: Helping your teenager to learn and achieve parenting advice

You are the most important teachers in your child's life.  You can make a difference to their learning - by giving them time and attention - and creating a good environment at home.  They value praise from you, even if they don't show it - and it helps boost their confidence.  Show you expect them to do well - and that you want to help.


Teenagers' brains and bodies go through huge changes and development - they need rest and good food.  Stick to rules about a sensible bedtime on school nights and keep healthy food in the house.

Turn Off That Screen

More than 2 hours a day in front of TV, computer or games console is not good for your child.

You're The Parent

Don't give in to pressure.  Explain rules to your child - tell them you are being firm beacuse you care.


Your child needs to have confidence that they can do things.  Boredom and bad temper often hide fear of failure or unfamiliar things.  Do whatever you can to boost their confidence and self-esteem.


Make time to talk about what they like and don't like.

Listen to them and respect their interests

Show you are proud of them and praise them when they try hard

Overcoming Problems

Let them know it's alright to find things difficult - it's part of learning.  It's hard for children to ask for help at this age.  Encourage them to tell you about problems.

Outside School

Expect your child to help with jobs at home - it helps them develop skills.

Encourage them to try new things


Be Prepared

Help your child to have a routine that gets them to school in good time.

Make sure they get things together the night before school.

Put their timetable on the wall in their bedrom or the kitchen - so you all know what they need.

Take An Interest

It's harder to keep in touch with secondary school and to understand everything your child is learning, but it is still very important.

Take any chances to go into school and get to know staff.

Go to parents' evenings - show teachers you have high expectations for your child.

Ask for information about what your child is learning and what happens during the year.

Homework Matters

  • Don't do it for them - but do help
  • They need a space to work in
  • Take an interest - ask them to explain it to you - help them think
  • Praise them when they work well - notice if they are struggling
  • Check their homework diary
  • There are local homework support clubs at some libraries within Manchester

Keeping In Touch

  • Expect school to take child's needs seriously.
  • Ask them for help if your child has learning or behaviour problems
  • Get in touch with school if you are worried about anything - don't wait for them to contact you
  • Show your child you are working with the teachers 


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